This article isn’t about those naughty nine-hundred numbers
for ninety-nine cents per minute. This
is about flirty to filthy phone banter with a partner or, perspective
partner. It’s about those conversations
that happen when two people are separated for a time and simply want to turn
each other on.
What happened to
I call it a lost art because the internet came along and,
for many couples, this form of bonding became obsolete. Why call when you can
Snap or FaceTime, right? While pictures and video calls can be hot, they leave
nothing to the imagination and that’s what phone sex was all about; fantasy and
imagination. We’ve become a society
driven by immediate gratification and the desire to see more.
What’s so great about
There’s something to be said about hearing the longing in
your lovers’ voice and knowing that when they close their eyes, they see
themselves doing unspeakable things to you.
For those who are a bit modest about showing their bodies online,
telling instead puts them in a more comfortable space allowing them to express
their desires more openly.
I would be remiss not to mention the permanence and
potential risk of exposure that comes from sending nudes, explicit video
content, or even racy text messages.
Phone sex generally ends when the call is ended leaving far less risk
that anyone other than your partner will know about your interlude.
When you’re getting comfortable with your partner and need
to spice things up, phone sex can be a welcome novelty. Whether you’re in a
long distance relationship or simply separated for a day or two, phone sex can
keep the intimacy continuous despite being apart.
How to keep it from
Talking dirty is a definite step outside of many peoples’
comfort zones but expressing your fantasies in a way that excites your partner
can be easy.
If you’re certain that your partner will be a willing
participant, just go for it but if there’s any doubt, discuss it and get their
You may want to start by sending teaser texts during the
day. Something like, “I’ve been thinking about you naked,” or “I can’t wait to
tell you about the sexy dream I had about you.”
To prepare, you might read an erotic novel or watch a little
porn to get the imagination flowing. Then, dress sexy and ready the area where
you’ll be making the call. It’s easier to describe your outfit and the scene if
it’s real. For example, “I’m wearing a red teddy,” or “You lay me down on the satin sheets,”.
You don’t have to jump right in with the dirty talk.
Sometimes, it’s better to ease into it. Discuss your day and tell your partner
how many times you thought about them.
Then, when you’re both at ease, lay out your fantasy.
Keep in mind that in most cases you’ll be having a two-way
dialogue as your partner seeks the details that will make them the most
excited. If you are the more submissive
partner, you might find that your lover takes control of the conversation
leaving you to simply describe how they make you feel.
Remember that the more descriptive you are, the better. You're
depending on your words to paint a picture in your partner's head.
Listen to your partner's words and breathing. This is the
best way to know if you’re hitting the right buttons and remember to respond.
Your partner will be relying on your words,
moans, and heavy breathing, too.
Don’t be afraid to
That is, after all, the point. If you fake it, they’ll
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